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The above solutions are
the easier ones. The suggestions below are the ones you need more time
to incorporate. It may take weeks, months, or even years. Over time you
can gradually make these ideas stronger parts of your life. And they can
make you feel less and less nervous in any situation.
Comprehend that People Don't Care that much about what you do
One big source of
nervousness is focusing too much on what people will think of you. And
thinking that their criticism is always about you.
But people don't think
that much about what you do. You keep much of your attention from day to
day on your problems, challenges and triumphs. And that's exactly what
the next guy / girl is doing too.
In general, people keep
much of their attention on their own challenges and problems. And their
criticism is often about something negative in their life rather than
about something you did. So don't worry too much about it. Now, it's
very easy to fall back into a behaviour where you feel needy and wonder
what people may think about you and what you do. But by working on this
you can step by step and over time become less and less worried or
bothered by what people might think. This allows you more inner freedom
to do and try what you want since you're not feeling trapped in the box
of other people's opinions.
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Firm Handshake
Give a firm handshake to
the interviewer the moment you enter the hall. This indicates your
confidence level and personality in total. The handshakes will push off
your nervousness. When shaking hands, match the pressure of their
handshake. Do not be shamble or unusual with the way you shake hands.
Wait a moment and smile at the interviewer after meeting them.
Good Eye Contact
Maintain a good eye
contact with the interviewer. It is a form of non-verbal communication
known as oculesics and has a large influence on social behavior. It
shows the personal involvement and creates an intimate bond between the
interviewer and interviewee. Keeping too much eye-contact might crawl
people out. Giving no eye-contact might make you seem insecure. If you
are not used to keeping eye-contact, it might feel a little hard or
scary in the beginning, but keep working on it, and you'll get used to
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