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Don't Touch Your Face
Avoid touching your face.
Don't shake your shoulders and hands. It might make you seem nervous and
can be disturbing for the listeners or the people in the conversation.
Stay in the Present Moment
This one ties with the
one about stomach breathing. When you take those deep, powerful breaths
and focus on doing that, your mind seems to silence. Your projections of
what may happen at the meeting or job interview die out. Nervousness
comes from these negative projections of what may happen sometime in the
future. Or from what happened in the past, perhaps from the last time
you had a meeting or an interview. Instead, when you focus your
attention on what's happening now, now and now... the nervousness dies
out too.
Another way to stay in -
or return to - the present moment is to just pay attention to what is
happening right now. Just focus on the scene and the sounds right in
front of you. Don't think about the reports you have to finish before 5
o'clock, the meeting tomorrow, or what you want for dinner. Just pay
attention to the present moment and nothing else for a few moments. Make
it a habit and try to expand the time you can spend in the present
moment before your thoughts drift away again.
Don't Swallow the Answer
While giving the answers
for the questions, don't swallow the last words of your sentences. This
brings down the confidence level and indicates that you are not
confident about your answers.
Accept
Many people freeze,
stammer, or panic when they are asked a question that they don't know
the answer to. If you don't know the answer, the best course of action
to take is to admit it! Tell the host you can try to find out the answer
later. Lying or attempting to make up an answer only serves to make you
and the host uncomfortable. Accept your innocence. Don't give wrong
answer and get caught. Don't nod your head too much which indicates that
you are hiding your tension through your body language.
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